How to Talk to Your Partner About Your Kinky Fetishes

Do you have a secret fetish? You aren’t alone; about 36% of Americans have a specific kink or fetish. For many, there’s the fear of alienation, embarrassment, and possible awkwardness that prevents them from admitting their kinky fetishes to their partner. 

There’s nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, you should be honest and open with your partner. Otherwise, you’ll never feel fully satisfied in your relationship. 

Reading this guide will help you share your sexual desires and erotic fetishes with your partner. 

Break the Ice With a Questionnaire

Suggest that you and your partner take a sexual adventurousness questionnaire. You could turn it into a fun game. Then you’ll only see what both of you are willing to do. 

This is a safe way to see what you two are interested in or are willing to try. Once you have the results, you have opened the door to discuss your kinks and fetishes with your sexual partner.

Try a Joke 

One of the easiest ways to approach tough subjects is with humor. It lightens the mood and gives you an easy out. If you think your partner may not respond positively or that your sexual fetishes are particularly controversial, then frame it as a joke. 

You can then gauge your partner’s reaction. If it’s a positive one, then you can move forward with the conversation. If your partner responds negatively, then you can easily pivot the conversation as it was a joke. 

Be Open to Experimenting 

Upon expressing your feelings, you may find that your partner has their own sexual desires and needs. At this point, you need to be as open, understanding, and supportive as you hoped they would be towards you. 

You can read on here about how you two can experiment together. Try taking turns experimenting with each other’s fetishes. 

Be Direct and Open 

Sometimes the best course of action is to be open and direct with your communication. Start by telling your partner that you’re coming to them in a place of love and trust. Communicate clearly about what you want, what you like, and what you desire. 

Positively frame your sentences. Explain what you’re hoping to do. Then leave room in the conversation for your partner to express themselves. 

Have Patience 

Depending on what you approach your partner with, it may take them time to give you their response. Have patience and expect to have more than one conversation. Be ready to answer questions as your partner comes to you with their thoughts. 

Confess Your Kinky Fetishes

By using these tips, you’ll be able to broach the subject of talking about your kinky fetishes with your partner. If you’re ready to face the matter head-on, then you can sit down and have an open and honest conversation. 

If you aren’t quite ready for this, then you can try approaching the subject with a questionnaire or joke. This gives you an easy out if you find that your partner is as receptive as you hoped they would be. 

Check out our other lifestyle articles for more tips and tricks to having a successful relationship.